What makes some people so energetic and admired that they become a magnet in attracting others to them. You know, the kind of person you enjoy being in their company. It has little to do with good looks, being abundantly wealthy, owning an expensive car, or wearing the latest fashion statement. Of course, these can't hurt if you are lucky enough to have them.

It has everything to do with how you think, react, interact, and manage your time effectively. Being a success in life, love, business, and all personal activities takes work and a conscious "awareness" of the qualities and traits that can make you a confident, take charge person that attracts both men and women.

Think about each and every one of the traits listed below. On a daily basis "take action" on one or two of these qualities or traits. Small steps on a daily basis can lead to massive changes over time. Taken as a whole, they can be overwhelming. Progress is not made overnight, but by taking small chunks and tackling them one at a time. Take small steps today and your momentum will pick up next week, next month, next year...compounding like interest in a bank.

15 Steps To Becoming A New Person...

1. Maintain An Even Keel!

Have you ever met a hot head, angry, bitter person that you love to be with. Your temperament and how you handle yourself in all situations can determine your "cool" factor. Maintain steady, sturdy, and stable. Think before you act. Don't get this confused with personality. Some folks are laid back, some are lively and animated. All are perfectly fine to be who you are, but when the ship hits the fan or when you are being pulled in five different directions, how you react is what's important.

2. Have A Sense Of Humor!

Be self-deprecating and disarming. You have to be willing to poke fun at yourself from time to time, rather than be staunchly serious. Like anything else in life, humor has to be used in moderation and at the right time to be effective.

3. Smile!

Try this experiment. As you pass 3 people at work, have a somber or uncaring look on your face (This may be normal for you). Next, pass 3 people with a big, genuine smile on your face and offer a short greeting. What kind of reaction do you get? How did it make you feel? How did it make them feel? People love to feel valued and important. You can make someone's day just by giving a simple smile.

4. Treat People Like You Would Want To Be Treated!

What goes around comes around. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and dignity. This applies in front of them and behind their back. Don't get caught up in viscous gossip.

5. Remember Peoples Names And Small Details About Them!

More importantly use both of them in conversation. People love to hear their names and asking a question about their life shows you have an interest in them on a personal level.

6. Be Honest!

If you lie, even a small little white lie, eventually you will get caught in it. Everyone appreciates direct honesty, even if it is not popular or what they want to hear.

7. Let Other People Talk!

Conversation needs to be two sided to take place. Let the other person do most of the talking. Remain attentive and interested in what the person has to say.

8. Listen!

Really listen to what the other person is telling you. When he or she is talking, give direct eye contact and don't think of how you are going to respond. Process what they are saying and then formulate your answer. Too many people do not listen when people talk but instead think about what they will say next and miss most of what that person said.

9. Do Your Homework!

Don't go into anything unprepared. Plan and organize what you need to do. Checklists work great, this is why pilots use them....to not forget anything. Wasting someone's time due to poor planning leaves a bad impression. Even a little preparation, if rushed, goes a long way.

10. Be Disciplined!

Physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual discipline is at the core of your being. Work on improving it every single day.

11. Stand Up Straight And Fly Right!

Good posture commands attention. Shoulders back, stomach in, butt in, and direct eye contact give you a commanding presence.

12. Be Compassionate And Caring!

The world is a hard place, but caring and compassionate people always make a difference in an otherwise selfish world.

13. Find A Mentor!

Emulate someone you admire. Good role models help us build our own unique model of who we are.

14. Associate With Positive People!

If you want to be upbeat, positive, and confident, don't hang around with petty, nasty, complaining, whiney people. They will bring you down if you let them or you will become one of them. You know the type, complains at work but does nothing to change their unhappy situation. Life is too short to be pessimistic. Choose people who laugh, have goals and objectives, and are interested in living life to the fullest.

15. Give!

Give your time or give your money to worthwhile causes. What you give and how much you give will come back to you in spades in all kinds of ways. Misers are unhappy people.


Everyday strive to be the best that you can possibly be. Will you stumble along the way? Sure, but it is how you get up and continue that counts. It is the small effort that you take daily that can lead to the dynamic, "gee I wish I were like him/her" person you deserve to be.

Your attitude determines your altitude in life. Good luck and start today!